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4.9

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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I've watched the videos of pretty well every major counsellor in the relationship recovery field and this guy is easily head and shoulders above the rest. Incredibly engaging videos that explain both... See more

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Alexis is an absolute professional, after much studying on what happened and realizing my ex was an appointment I was lucky enough to seek out Alexis. As a former avoidant himself you truly sees thing... See more

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I give Alexis a 5 star review. I went from not sleeping at night and being stalked by my ex(who dumped me overnight after a 2.5 yr relationship/situationship) on social media to moving on and developi... See more

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I only spoke with Alexis once but he was so kind, so insightful, yet direct. It was just one session but he gave me hope. The next day I was back with ex. In hindsight I should of continued with Al... See more

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The Avoidant Therapist helps people who are stuck in anxious-avoidant relationships understand what is really happening, calm their attachment system, and make clear decisions about their love life. The Avoidant Therapist was founded by Alexis Friedlander, an attachment specialist, therapist and content creator based in London. Alexis is a former dismissive-avoidant who became securely attached, so he explains avoidant behaviour from the inside: why avoidant partners pull away, go quiet or end things suddenly, and what actually helps. Most of the people we work with are anxiously attached and dating, or recovering from a breakup with, an avoidant partner. They come to us overthinking, checking their phone, and unsure whether to stay, wait or walk away. Our work is built on the Secure Base Method, a four-stage process: Calm: settle the anxiety and break the addiction loop. Reprogram: change the beliefs and patterns driving the dynamic. Expose: practise secure communication in real situations. Decide: choose, from a secure place, whether this relationship is right for you. We offer the Secure Base coaching programme, one-to-one coaching, live events and masterclasses, alongside more than 380 free videos on The Avoidant Therapist YouTube channel, where over 27,000 subscribers have been learning about attachment for the past seven years. Clients tell us they chose us because the approach is genuine, ethical and practical, with no manipulation tactics and no promises to "get your ex back". The goal is your own security, whatever happens with the relationship. Master your attachment, you master your relationships. Learn more at theavoidanttherapist.com


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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Very kind and helpful

Very kind and helpful. The Insight and the advice is, great. Even though I probably won't achieve the result i initialy wanted i am happy and at peace

31 January 2022
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Thanks Lukas for your review. Let's stay in touch :)

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Thank you for your support

Thank you for your support, I was really depressed and I no longer believed in it at all... I was becoming a person I hated, I had lost confidence in myself... and in the end we give each other today a new chance. It wasn't easy but during this phase I kept my head up thanks to you.

26 January 2022
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Didn't get my ex back

Didn't get my ex back. Got a refund for the 2 weeks of coaching I got on WhatsApp. Alexis is not to be blamed for this failure, looking back I realize I couldn't recover my ex.

19 January 2022
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Interview and videos review

Alexis is very professional and provides great insight into how to approach a recent breakup, how to recover and how to decide to move forward, without pushing any unnecessary materials. Alexis' videos provide great practical content into how to make a plan. Highly recommendable approach for any attachment style.

12 January 2022
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Expert, empathic, and generous. A true gentleman.

After watching many of Alexis' videos on YouTube, I reached out to him on WhatsApp, regarding my recent break up.

Alexis spent far more of his free time chatting to me than was expected, or even warranted. He helped me to think more of myself, and see the situation a little more clearly.

I will definitely be booking a session with Alexis in the near future. Maybe not in the hopes of getting my ex back, as I plan to try and move on, but to work on myself, and become a better partner for someone else in the future.

12 January 2022
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Rated 5 out of 5 stars

It was all thanks to Alexis I was able…

It was all thanks to Alexis I was able to head back into the dating scene since my divorce, I feel more confident and I deserve happiness ! Thank you!

11 January 2022
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist

Thanks! It was a pleasure to help you out!

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Good advice from alexis

I spoke to alexis this morning he really listen too what I had to say an gave me good advice an how too go about it I also follow all of is YouTube videos that he does an goes in depth with certain situations to help people thanks again Jason

10 January 2022
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Pleasure was mine Jason. Talk soon

Rated 4 out of 5 stars

Alexis is in the process of helping me…

Alexis is in the process of helping me to try and get my ex back. He has been responsive in his texts and give good advice.

10 January 2022
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Thanks for the kid words.

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

With Alexis's help

With Alexis's help, me and my wife were able to talk through our problems. We're communicating better now and our marriage is stronger than ever.

10 January 2022
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Really rewarding to see how well you guys are doing now. Stronger than ever!

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Dismissive avoidant are the toughest ones to get back

Alexis what’s app feature is great for anxious people like me with a dismissive avoidant ex. He gives a perspective from a point of view where it calms your mind. Everyone knows a dismissive avoidant attachment style is the most difficult to get back. Alexis has given me great suggestions on how to maintain my emotional control with my dismissive avoidant ex.
I have read a lot of books and follow a lot of YouTube channels about dismissive avoidant ex’s. Alexis’s videos are very structured and clear. I love how he lists his talking points on his videos while he’s going over them. It makes rewinding and rewatching his videos a lot easier. Alexis speaks with a calm and steady tone, which also is calming to an anxious attachment style (me). Highly recommend Alexis.

9 January 2022
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist

Thanks Kim for the nice review. Glad you found value with my WhatsApp coaching offer

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Mr Alexis is really good consultant i…

Mr Alexis is really good consultant i was suffering every day with my breakup i can't decide whats is good for me he help me lot he clear my lot of confusion and he is explaining with very nice way and friendly way without any charges he give me best solution if there is 10 start i will give him that even unfortunately only 5 star option but Mr Alexis Deserve more ⭐s

9 January 2022
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I wish there could be bonus stars ;) Thanks for the 5 stars anyway

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

The complete package. 5*

Found Alexis youtube channel and community two weeks ago. His coaching and teachings are innovative, insightful plus they're delivered in a funny, joyful and ordered format. Having Alexis on my team makes all the difference and im looking forward to our next session!

8 January 2022
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist

Thanks Leo for the review! Glad to count you in our community

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Alexis was incredible

Alexis was incredible. He made it very easy for a first timer like me and I found him to be very understanding and calm. I also felt like he understood everything that I was trying to convey. He also helped me understand my concerns as well. I would definitely recommend him to others.

31 December 2021
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist

Thanks Leigh for your review!

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Alexis was amazing during my session…

Alexis was amazing during my session with me. He taught me strategies on how to manage my anxiety and ways on how to slowly recover from my break up.

27 December 2021
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist

Thanks Caden for the review. Looking to hear updates from your new relationship ;)

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

I had difficulty with dating especially…

I had difficulty with dating especially after my divorce but thanks to Alexis, I finally went out on dating and now I have a new partner in life.

13 December 2021
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist

Thanks for the review. I will keep an eye open for the wedding invitation :)

Rated 5 out of 5 stars

Great

Coach has huge experience in relationship management thanks for his guidance

7 December 2021
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Reply from The Avoidant Therapist

Thanks for the review Esh

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